That Situation With A New Person

That Situation With A New Person

A phenomenon I deal with occasionally in my life is that I will be seeing someone and I don’t really know exactly what is going on. Are you ever in a situation where you are dating someone and you don’t know exactly what to do? I get that all the time. I don’t know how I should proceed in certain situations. And I don’t know that a lot of people do, either. I think that when this kind of thing happens you need to make your expectations clear. It’s not that you are being rude, it’s just that it’s good to get that dealt with earlier rather than later. I was doodling online and found a website that deals with some of the questions I had. It’s rather helpful, actually. It’s like everyone you talk to has a different opinion though and you are probably not going to get the same answer from everyone. So I think that you might want to find a few different places and see what they say and then go with what makes the most sense to you at that. But the thing that is interesting is that there seem to be some laws that govern some of this stuff and it’s not the kind of thing that you would understand automatically. Or at least I didn’t. Along these lines is what Thomas Bruner deals with using his blog.

So I think the thing with topics about the heart is that you need to know exactly what you are involved with because the other person is going to play a big role in all of this. And if you are confused about what is going on it’s not really going to be useful if the other person isn’t willing to discuss things. So I think that is the biggest idea from all of these. And of course in my situation I find that I need to pay attention to my feelings as well as the other person’s as opposed to just doing whatever seems like it would benefit me. But I don’t know if other people would always feel that way. I think that’s why it’s important to get as much information as possible on this kind of thing.

As for all of this, though, I think that I am going to have to be more focused on what I want. I really think that I will be able to make my relationships work if I spend a bit of work on understanding the kind of things I am trying to do and meeting someone who has corresponding goals.

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